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His not ejaculating as often has him appreciating her beauty even more.

His not ejaculating as often has him appreciating her beauty even more.

Will she respect him if he is her Knight?

Via an email I was asked:

I like the idea of devotional sex, but my understanding is that women typically like the man to take charge in a relationship, and I’m worried that this would introduce a weird power imbalance that would lead her to respect me less / be less attracted to me. Any response to that concern?

Some women won’t like the idea of Devotional Sex, and a reason for some would be that they want the man to take charge.

But I’ve had many partners who have enjoyed my being a Knight with them and have still respected me in the morning.

If a man were to present himself as a BDSM submissive to a vanilla date then your concern would be well founded. I don’t think most women would understand nor enjoy their date turning into a submissive.

But Devotional Sex is totally different because in many ways it is the man who has taken charge of the dynamic and is leading the activities.

Calling him a ‘Knight’ in Devotional Sex was carefully chosen because this conjures up a picture of a strong man who has chosen to devote himself to his Princess.

When I date a woman I’m the one telling her that Devotional Sex is the way I do things and so I won’t ejaculate with her and I don’t want intercourse until we get to know each other much better.

If she is still interested in enjoying our mutual chemistry, then I’m the one who gives her a map of possibilities. I’m her guide - I’m leading her. 

Within what I’m willing to do I’m also giving her control to decide what we do, how long it lasts, and how far we go. So within everything I’ve set up she feels genuinely in control of the activities. 

If you read the true story of my first date with Princess Ada you will see how this all worked in practice. 

Though there is variation in what people do, the on-line BDSM world has taken some kinks to the extreme and turned some activities into being all about that kink. So on the net CFNM (clothed female naked male) is all about the women humiliating the male. 

I’ve never been with a woman who has wanted to humiliate me, and if I asked for this then I think most of my dates would lose respect for me and be less attracted to me. 

But not only with my first date with Princess Ada, but with other dates as well, I have often enjoyed some CFNM with my vanilla date without her losing respect for me.

The huge difference is that with Devotional Sex there is no humiliation. In fact the dynamic is more tantric than anything else because it becomes a mutual celebration of my desire for my Princess. Done this way I’ve found that this increases her arousal and desire for me. 

If you think of yourself as a strong, powerful, confident Knight who is looking for his Princess, this will come across to your date/partner. This is the dynamic that has worked very well for me many times.

Happy exploring!

It’s amazing how many very sexy games a couple can play in public without those around them knowing what is happening.
With real-life Devotional Sex it is not very likely that there will be a flash like this, but I’ve often had a smile like this when, just before we went out, my Princess has had me lick her, and her smile is saying “I know that you are still hungry for me”.

It’s amazing how many very sexy games a couple can play in public without those around them knowing what is happening.

With real-life Devotional Sex it is not very likely that there will be a flash like this, but I’ve often had a smile like this when, just before we went out, my Princess has had me lick her, and her smile is saying “I know that you are still hungry for me”.

When sex ends without him ejaculating, his erotic energy is channelled into intimacy and connection.

When sex ends without him ejaculating, his erotic energy is channelled into intimacy and connection.

With Devotional Sex it becomes normal to often have a session like this which goes no further.
This is because a Princess has the freedom to enjoy his arousal and a erotically charged cuddle even when she doesn’t feel like taking things further this session.

PS - I suspect that this photo is two swingers (they are on the floor and not a bed, and there is a photographer standing above them). With real swinging it might be difficult for her to enjoy this but not go further. But if this man were a Knight then what, if anything, happens next is totally up to her, and so it becomes easy to go no further if that is what she prefers.

With Devotional Sex it becomes normal to often have a session like this which goes no further.

This is because a Princess has the freedom to enjoy his arousal and a erotically charged cuddle even when she doesn’t feel like taking things further this session.

PS - I suspect that this photo is two swingers (they are on the floor and not a bed, and there is a photographer standing above them). With real swinging it might be difficult for her to enjoy this but not go further. But if this man were a Knight then what, if anything, happens next is totally up to her, and so it becomes easy to go no further if that is what she prefers.

Because he usually doesn’t ejaculate, Devotional Sex tends to move towards slower sex which has all the passion but also benefits from greater intimacy and connection. A big step towards tantra.

Because he usually doesn’t ejaculate, Devotional Sex tends to move towards slower sex which has all the passion but also benefits from greater intimacy and connection. A big step towards tantra.

Being hers outside.

Being hers outside.

Devotional Sex only gives her control over sensual and sexual activities.
But the sensual includes having her Knight prepare her bath.
And once out of the bath the sexual might be having him lick her to orgasm, or having him inside her, or ….
- as she lies in the bath she can contemplate the possibilities.

Devotional Sex only gives her control over sensual and sexual activities.

But the sensual includes having her Knight prepare her bath.

And once out of the bath the sexual might be having him lick her to orgasm, or having him inside her, or ….

- as she lies in the bath she can contemplate the possibilities.

Being his Princess means that she can play with him whenever she wants.

Being his Princess means that she can play with him whenever she wants.

His high erotic energy from not having ejacualted for a few days means that he would love this cuddle to quickly move to some activities.
But as he has given his Princess control over what happens she feels relaxed and comfortable enjoying just this cuddle for as long as she wishes, and part of this is her enjoying his strong desire for her.

Photo is unbenannt by Dani Padgett ∆ on Flickr.

His high erotic energy from not having ejacualted for a few days means that he would love this cuddle to quickly move to some activities.

But as he has given his Princess control over what happens she feels relaxed and comfortable enjoying just this cuddle for as long as she wishes, and part of this is her enjoying his strong desire for her.

Photo is unbenannt by Dani Padgett ∆ on Flickr.

Keeping him thinking about her.

Keeping him thinking about her.

It’s fun for both to have an evening when she keeps her Knight naked and every once in a while gets him very aroused. 
Of course this moment of high arousal and passion is great.
But most special is the rest of the time, when he is no longer fully hard, and the couple are doing normal things together (with him still naked and her dressed).
He can feel, and she can see, that his background energy his high and that he is always thinking of her.

It’s fun for both to have an evening when she keeps her Knight naked and every once in a while gets him very aroused. 

Of course this moment of high arousal and passion is great.

But most special is the rest of the time, when he is no longer fully hard, and the couple are doing normal things together (with him still naked and her dressed).

He can feel, and she can see, that his background energy his high and that he is always thinking of her.

Mutual pleasure.

Mutual pleasure.

Though Devotional Sex leads to more sex and more pleasurable sex, the greatest changes come from the increased intimacy from the times when he is erect but all that happens is some cuddling.

Though Devotional Sex leads to more sex and more pleasurable sex, the greatest changes come from the increased intimacy from the times when he is erect but all that happens is some cuddling.

Devotional Sex opens up a new world of sexual pleasures and fun with a couple by themselves, and the difference is just as big when Devotional Sex is applied to group activity.
This photo looks like a real-life (not porn) photo of some happy swingers. Swinging can be lots of fun! But it also comes with lots of expectations and thus it can have a feel of male dominance.
The reason I have a big section on my website about using Devotional Sex with others is that I believe it opens up a whole new world of exploration and fun. 
I’m not replacing the old ways - just adding a new way. A new way which I believe is more likely to lead to moments such as in the above photo - the women very relaxed and happy as their Knights have given them control over what happens.

PS - In reply to captionshaming who said “Considering there’s no men in the pic at all I think you’re jumping the gun there a little buddy”
1 - As the introductory text of this tubmlr makes clear - “This blog is a collection of photos (reblogged from elsewhere) which I have interpreted as showing Devotional Sex in action.” So almost everything I post isn’t real Devotional Sex - just something that fits the feel well enough for me to be able to use for this blog.
2 - It’s very likely that at least two other people are in the room, the photographer and someone to the right of the photographer who has made the women laugh. I think it most likely that these are the male partners to the women. 

Devotional Sex opens up a new world of sexual pleasures and fun with a couple by themselves, and the difference is just as big when Devotional Sex is applied to group activity.

This photo looks like a real-life (not porn) photo of some happy swingers. Swinging can be lots of fun! But it also comes with lots of expectations and thus it can have a feel of male dominance.

The reason I have a big section on my website about using Devotional Sex with others is that I believe it opens up a whole new world of exploration and fun. 

I’m not replacing the old ways - just adding a new way. A new way which I believe is more likely to lead to moments such as in the above photo - the women very relaxed and happy as their Knights have given them control over what happens.

PS - In reply to captionshaming who said “Considering there’s no men in the pic at all I think you’re jumping the gun there a little buddy”

1 - As the introductory text of this tubmlr makes clear - “This blog is a collection of photos (reblogged from elsewhere) which I have interpreted as showing Devotional Sex in action.” So almost everything I post isn’t real Devotional Sex - just something that fits the feel well enough for me to be able to use for this blog.

2 - It’s very likely that at least two other people are in the room, the photographer and someone to the right of the photographer who has made the women laugh. I think it most likely that these are the male partners to the women.