The dynamic feels very different, yet the passion remains strong, when the Knight won’t ejaculate at the end.
Like a Knight of old, a Devotional Sex Knight does most of the work to be a Knight - in this case the work to keep the dynamic going.
He commits to her that he won’t ejaculate most times he gets hard, and he gives to her control over their sex life.
And just like a Princess of old, she accepts his devotion and is devoted to her Knight in return.
She uses her control to create situations which they both enjoy - such as the above scene (which would be wonderful to do in real-life).
So the above photo beautifully captures the Devotional dynamic - him being hers without her being dominant.
Removing male dominance whilst also increasing male desire opens up a new world of sexual pleasures for a woman.
Photo: Simon Jourdan
Her pegging him is something that she can enjoy without having to act cruel or dominant.
Within Devotional Sex this will be mutual fun.
Because intercourse isn’t going to lead to his ejaculation, a Devotee couple may sometimes decide to enjoy a long session with him gently inside her.
Most times I’ve done this we have chosen the spoon position.
But this more tantric like position also works well.
This feels much more intense and pleasurable for him, and it’s more fun for her to do, when he hasn’t ejaculated for many days.
With femdom she is going to deny him a climax. Denying him ejaculation has her enjoying her dominance and he enjoys feeling under her power. The dominance/submission dynamic can be so strong that it can distract from the pleasure of the playing.
With Devotional Sex it is the Knight who has committed to not ejaculating most times he gets hard. If he usually last for say 7 days, and this is day 5, then his Princess won’t even be thinking of the possibility of having him ejaculate. For her it is now just normal that this will end when she feels she has done enough and it ends without him ejaculating.
So she doesn’t feel that she is denying him.
She is though very much enjoying his energy and giving him pleasure. This isn’t teasing him, it is pleasing him.
She does feel very much in control. Especially when he is this aroused he will eagerly do anything she asks. And she can tell that just now he feels very hers because he has no idea when this will end and what, if anything might follow.
But even though he is hers, she doesn’t feel dominant. Him being her Knight and her having control has been the enabler for this play. And as domination/submission is not a major factor, both are free to fully appreciate the erotic energy and the giving and receiving of pleasure.
Of course there is nothing wrong with those who enjoy tease and denial with a strong dose of domination and submission. BDSM is a wonderful world for some.
But for those who are not into BDSM, and especially with couples where the woman isn’t naturally dominant or bossy, Devotional Sex provides another way of enjoying the fun and pleasures of sex
When her Knight arrives home from work she only need to say “Reveal" for him clothed to become unclothed.
Even if this only happens rarely, her Knight will always feel some anticipation when he arrives home because he won’t know what will happen that evening.
Photo is a submission to nymphoninja:
When he has been kept naked for a while, and she is clothed, a kiss like this is amazing.
On one hand he has extra energy and passion, but on the other his nudity contrasted with her clothes creates a feeling of him being vulnerable and hers.
A big cheer for Devotional Sex!
With Devotional Sex it becomes even more fun to pleasure him.
Devotional Sex is her having control without dominance:
"Er, in femdom it’s about consensual control as well so I don’t really understand why it makes a difference? A lot of what you talk about really sounds like sensual domination and orgasm control."
and here (to a photo where I said the woman wasn’t dominant)
"Uh, except she is? That’s the point of the pic?
Seriously dude what do you have against femdoms you generalize the hell out of us.”
I don’t have anything against femdom.
But the hardest task I face in explaining Devotional Sex to those who look at femdom tumblrs, etc, is that Devotional Sex isn’t just a different name for sensual domination.
The above photo doesn’t conjure up a picture of femdom, but it does capture the feel of Devotional Sex - her not feeling or acting dominant, her relaxed and happy, her enjoying that her Knight desires her, and both knowing that she decides what, if anything, happens next.
But she has this power because her Knight has given it to her in recognition that because he doesn’t ejaculate very often (his decision) he will want sex all the time so she can decide when it will and won’t happen.
This role is enjoyed by many non-dominant women. It’s easy for her because the hard work is done by her Knight.
On my forum I’ve written how Devotional Sex is primarily male driven.
For any naturally dominant woman who are interested in Devotional Sex I’ve written a post on Devotional Domination being primarily female driven.
Though femdom is just as consensual as Devotional Sex, the feel is different because of her natural dominance and thus her doing the work of holding the dynamic together.
I’m not saying Devotional Sex is better than femdom - which technique is best for any couple is for them to decide.
PS: And I know that a few people insist that her having control means that she is thus dominant. To me these people have missed my main points - so it’s simpler just to agree to disagree with them.