Fantasy or Future Reality? - Why Devotional Sex is very different:
I’ve not been in a relationship for a few years now, but until a week ago I had been enjoying some Devotional Sex with an intimate friend. As the intimate part of our friendship has now ended I need to start looking forward with the hope of finding someone new.
The internet (including Tumblr) is a powerful purveyor of what for most people will remain fantasy:
With vanilla sex the net pushes disconnected porn-style sex where the fantasy would be that my next date acts like a porn star. The other (non-kinky) extreme would be my next date was a highly-connected tantric practitioner.
When it comes to kink on the net (and in photos here) each option is usually taken to the extreme - the strongly dominant women, humiliation, chastity and orgasm denial, etc.
Real-life has surprises, but it is highly unlikely that I’ll soon find a woman who wants to be my porn slut, or my tantric goddess, to dominate me, humiliate me, to deny me ejaculation, or any other kink I’ve forgotten to mention.
All of the above are powerful ways of enjoying sex - but if any of them is what I really wanted then it would probably remain an unfulfilled fantasy.
Devotional Sex is just a different way of thinking and doing sex. It could be said to be a mild version of femdom and orgasm denial - and in practice the feel ends up having a lot in common with tantra.
What is very different about Devotional Sex is that it is so female friendly that enjoying Devotional Sex when I find someone is very likely to become my future reality.
The usual interpretation of the above photo is that this is strong female dominance and for many this is also about humiliation. For most who enjoy the photo this is something that remains a fantasy.
My usual way of introducing Devotional Sex to a date is to give her a foot massage. This is both a nice way to enjoy our first intimacy, and it creates a relaxing way for me to tell her more about the joys of being a Princess and a Knight and how it all works.
She learns that I won’t ejaculate no matter what we get up to, and that she has full control of how far we go, and can pull back at any time (there is no slippery slope). I also make clear that if I feel humiliated it is ‘game over’.
After a while I tell her that a fun and powerful way to feel that the dynamic is real is to have just one of us partially or fully undress, and that if she would enjoy me being naked (and receiving a foot massage from a naked man) she only need say “Reveal”.
In the past I’ve enjoyed many first dates where my date has chosen to say “Reveal” and so this photo captures a reality I’ve enjoyed many times.
On some dates things go no further. The full story of a date that did go much further is told here on my website.
Finding someone new might take some time (any interested women in Melbourne, Australia are welcome to make contact :). But when I do find someone I’m very likely to once again enjoy the intimacy, erotic fun, and sexual pleasures of Devotional Sex.
I welcome any questions or comments about this post here in my forum.